When I was born, they were blue. For most of my childhood, they were brown. For most of my adulthood, they have been hazel. During my lifetime, my eyes have changed colors, and so have I changed. As a young child, I had blond hair, which turned to brown as I got older. Now it continues to slowly recede while showing slight hints of gray. These outward changes symbolize to me that life is mutable. There is no constant. There may be a some predictable physical progressions, and an accompanying societal progression, but our minds and actions can wander where they like.
I share these observations in an attempt to address the question of a 30 year old new PC member I spoke to in our chat room recently. He is searching for meaning and purpose in his life. He is searching for a career which will really satisfy him. He is still searching for his true passions. The process seems so daunting to him, as it should be. Those are big questions.
In February, I devoted a couple blogs to a discussion of finding your passions - Pursue your Passion and Discovery
Instead of rehashing those thoughts, what I wanted to emphasize today is that it is the small moves that make the difference. Don't allow the daunting big questions to deter you from making the small moves. Using a poker analogy, you don't move from a being a TAG player to a LAG overnight. You don't change your natural tendencies that easily. You do it in baby steps. For instance, you start introducing some new hands to your opening frequency. You see how they fare and get reinforced by your results. You try some new moves, slowly testing the waters. You might experiment with donk leading instead of check raising your strong hands and bluffs when out of position. Each small move you try slowly changes your image. You may like the new results, or you may not. Each small moves pushes you in a new direction. You may not even end up where you thought you wanted to go. But that is the beauty of life.
Using myself as an example, when I was younger, I didn't know that I would become a teacher. I didn't know I would make ice cream for a living. I didn't know I would own an art gallery. I didn't know I would run a poker training site. I didn't know I would be an entrepreneur. I didn't know I would be an active blogger. I simply took small steps each time to try something. Some things stuck, some didn't. Some things I did well at, some I didn't. But I firmly believe that each one of us has many options. Our lives can go down many paths. Unfortunately, that potentiality seems overwhelming to us at times. Breaking it down into smaller decisions can often remove the inertia and allow us to take that first step in a new direction.
These days, my life may not be the shining example of spontaneity, or even of excitement. I lead a sedate, married with kids, suburban lifestyle, working many hours out of my home office. But my goal years ago was to create a stable, loving environment to raise kids with my wonderful wife. At times, the routine can seem uninspiring, but as I always tell Mrs. Zimba, as long as my mind is free and hopeful, I will always be satisfied. Each day, I can take small steps in the process of determining my future. I can't predict where I will end up. It doesn't really matter, as long as I have my family and my passions to accompany me.
No condition is permanent. Determine that you want to change. Then go out and do something. Anything. See where it takes you.